Probity?

Probity in other words sincerity is one rare characteristic in this world and it is seldom appreciated. Sometimes we may be considered as worthless for being sincere and it may really hurt someone when their sincerity is degraded. Over the years I have seen that sincerity has never been appreciated by others. Hypocrisy is more accepted as a norm than sincerity. Pretense is considered a better trait as if it is a higher level of diplomacy.

However, the Word of God exhorts believers to be sincere.

Hebrews 10:22 (NIV)

let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings...

It is very clear that we cannot relate to God without sincerity. We can pretend to be sincere before others. However, we cannot pretend sincerity before God. Stephen Charnock, a 17th century Presbyterian preacher said "We may be truly said to worship God, though we lack perfection; but we cannot be said to worship Him if we lack sincerity.” 
Sincerity is one trait that God appreciates as He knows us in and out. Hence the author of Hebrews exhorts us to draw ourselves near to God with sincerity. For Jesus accepts us as who we are and edifies us as we are His children.

Similarly, relationships can be affected without sincerity. Hypocrisy or pretense will soon be exposed...as the Bible states "for there is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known" (Matthew 10:26). Whether in our relationship with God or significant others sincerity is the most crucial component. It is better to be criticized for being sincere than to adopt the strategy of pretense to portray a false self-image.