The Way We Define Happiness...

In one of my previous post or another blog, I had mentioned this phrase. "Happiness is what we define for ourselves". Each of us define what brings happiness in our lives. For instance, I may define that by having more writing projects I would be happy as it would help me financially and satisfy me psychologically; and hence may base my happiness on my work prospects. Similarly, another person may define that getting married may bring happiness or change of job or building a house or having an offspring can bring or add happiness to their lives. While this is true to a greater extent and we may be praying hard or waiting desperately for a breakthrough, our minds might be so fixed on the future that we may fail to live in the present. This is a common phenomenon to all and has to happened to me as well...and I am no exception.

One of the things that we may forget in the process  of waiting for our defined future happiness is to live in the present. By doing so we can get so lost in our mental struggles that we miss out on small joys of the present...like a good time with the family, few moments of fun with spouse or children or parents or friends...Since we are so engulfed in our minds to live in our defined future happiness (which we see only in our daydreams) we loose to focus on the present.

We cannot change our present either by bargaining or negotiating with God or even by fighting with Him. We cannot achieve by making God change His mind.  We have to face the reality and wait with hope and prayer. We are left with no option. However, we can change the way we handle our present life instead of unnecessary mental struggles....that is by learning to live the present life by changing our definition of happiness.

Unless we learn to be happy in our current situation, we cannot assume that we will be happy in our future as per our defined happiness that we perceive. What guarantee do we have that we will be happy tomorrow without any kind of problems or worries. For the Bible clearly says,

Matthew 6:34 (NIV)
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

I got the message...